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Why I Believe in Building Multiple Streams of Income

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In today’s world, relying on a single source of income feels risky. With economic uncertainty and the rising cost of living, it’s more important than ever to diversify your income. I’m a big believer in building multiple streams of income, and here’s why.

Financial Security and Stability

One of the biggest reasons to have multiple income streams is financial security. If one stream dries up, you have others to fall back on. Think about it: if your main job suddenly disappears, how long could you sustain your lifestyle? For most people, the answer is not long.

Having multiple income sources means you’re not putting all your eggs in one basket. If one venture struggles, others can help keep you afloat. It’s like having a financial safety net that cushions the blow during tough times.

Opportunities to Pursue Passions

Multiple streams of income allow you to explore your interests. Maybe you have a creative hobby or a skill you’ve always wanted to monetize. Having a stable job gives you the foundation to take risks with passion projects without stressing over bills.

For example, if you love crafting, you could start selling handmade items online. If writing is your passion, freelance gigs or self-publishing could add an extra stream. By diversifying your income, you’re not just earning more—you’re also fulfilling your creative potential.

Building Wealth Faster

Relying on one paycheck often means slow financial growth. Multiple income streams, however, can significantly accelerate wealth building. Imagine earning from your main job, a side hustle, and passive income investments simultaneously. The money accumulates faster and can be reinvested to create even more streams.

Investing in stocks, real estate, or peer-to-peer lending are great ways to build passive income. The goal is to make your money work for you rather than the other way around. Diversifying your income means you’re not just earning; you’re strategically growing your wealth.

Personal and Professional Growth

Managing multiple streams of income requires you to learn new skills, stay organized, and think creatively. This process inevitably leads to personal growth. You develop a stronger work ethic, become more resourceful, and learn to manage your time efficiently.

On a professional level, it keeps you adaptable. The skills you gain from side hustles or freelance work often transfer to your main job, making you more valuable as an employee or entrepreneur. The confidence gained from seeing your efforts pay off can also boost your self-esteem.

Preparing for the Future

Economic landscapes change rapidly. Industries that are thriving today might not be so profitable tomorrow. By diversifying your income sources, you’re proactively preparing for potential downturns. You’ll have the flexibility to shift focus and pivot to more lucrative opportunities without being left scrambling.

Additionally, building multiple streams early on sets you up for retirement. Passive income, in particular, becomes invaluable when you’re no longer working a traditional job. Real estate investments, dividend stocks, or royalties from creative projects can continue to bring in money long after you retire.

Achieving Financial Independence

Many people dream of financial independence—earning enough to cover their living expenses without relying on a single paycheck. Multiple income streams are essential to achieving that dream. They give you the freedom to make choices based on your passions rather than financial obligations.

Whether it’s starting a small business, investing in property, or building an online brand, each step toward diversification brings you closer to financial freedom. The ultimate goal is to have enough passive income to sustain your lifestyle, allowing you to focus on what truly matters.

Start Small but Think Big

You don’t need to launch several income streams all at once. Start with one small venture, master it, and then add another. Maybe you begin by freelancing a few hours a week, then branch out into creating digital products or investing. The key is consistency and commitment.

Remember, each new income stream might feel challenging at first, but the effort pays off in the long run. Be strategic—choose ventures that align with your skills and interests, and don’t be afraid to pivot if something isn’t working.

Wrapping It All Up

Building multiple streams of income is not just a financial strategy—it’s a mindset. It’s about taking control of your financial future and giving yourself options. The peace of mind that comes from knowing you’re not dependent on one paycheck is priceless.

Whether you’re looking for financial security, wealth growth, or the freedom to pursue your passions, diversifying your income is the way to go. Start today, build gradually, and watch your financial confidence soar.

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

The Power of Words

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Our words hold more power than we think. The way we speak about our lives, dreams, and challenges shapes our reality. I’ve seen this firsthand and truly believe in speaking things into existence. It’s not magic—it’s mindset and intention.

Why Speaking Positivity Matters

When you talk about your goals as if they’re already in progress, your brain starts working towards them. You feel motivated and driven. Phrases like “I will succeed” or “I am capable” send a message to your subconscious to find ways to make it happen.

Real-Life Examples of Speaking Things Into Existence

I’ve noticed that when I consistently speak positively about my goals, opportunities seem to come my way. Whether it’s landing a freelance project or improving my personal habits, the mindset shift makes a difference.

Turning Words Into Actions

It’s not just about saying it—it’s about living it. When you declare your intentions out loud, you start taking small steps to align your actions. It might be as simple as setting a daily routine or making a phone call you’ve been putting off.

How to Start Speaking Your Dreams Into Reality

  1. Be Specific: Instead of vague affirmations, get detailed. Say, “I will finish my ebook by the end of the month.”
  2. Stay Consistent: Make positive self-talk a habit. It’s not a one-time thing.
  3. Act on Your Words: Each time you affirm a goal, take a small action to support it.
  4. Visualize Success: Picture what success looks like as you speak it. This creates a mental blueprint.

Final Reflectionss

Speaking things into existence isn’t just wishful thinking—it’s setting intentions with purpose. When you combine positive affirmations with deliberate actions, you’re giving yourself the best chance to turn your dreams into reality. Start speaking confidently about your goals today and watch how it changes your mindset—and your life. Trust me, it can work in the opposite way just the same so be careful what you manifest,

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

Toss It, Wrap It, Eat It: Foil Pack Magic

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When it comes to cooking without a mess, impressing the family, or throwing together something hearty on the fly — you just can’t beat a good ol’ foil pack dinner. Some folks call ‘em hobo dinners, others call ‘em foil packets, but no matter what name you go with, one thing’s for sure: these things are foolproof, full of flavor, and perfect for just about any situation — especially camping, tailgating, or even a lazy Sunday like today.

Now, I’ve made all kinds over the years — from classic meat and potato combos to sausage and cabbage — but today, I’m fixin’ up one of my absolute favorites: Fajita Foil Packs.

My Fajita Foil Pack Special

These little flavor bombs are so simple, but man oh man, do they pack a punch. Here’s how I do it:

  • Protein: Beef steak (you can use skirt, sirloin, or whatever cut you like)
  • Veggies: Sliced bell peppers, onions, (2) whole jalapenos and a good handful of chopped cilantro
  • Seasoning: Salt, pepper, lemon pepper, and cumin — that’s the magic combo
  • Liquid: Just a splash of water to help everything steam and stay juicy

I wrap all that goodness up in heavy-duty foil, seal it tight, and toss it on the grill (or in the oven at 400°F) for about 60–90 minutes. I like to use an aluminum pie pan for extra protection from spillage. What comes out is tender, juicy steak and veggies that taste like you worked way harder than you actually did.

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Why Foil Pack Dinners Are a Game-Changer

I could write a love letter to foil packs — they’re that good. Here’s why folks keep coming back to ’em:

  • No cleanup. You cook and serve in the same little pouch. Just toss the foil when you’re done.
  • Customizable. Everyone can make their own. Perfect for picky eaters or folks with allergies.
  • Portable. Headed to the lake or campground? These travel like a dream.
  • Hard to mess up. As long as you don’t forget ’em on the fire, they’ll come out tasty every time.
  • Oven or grill-friendly. Rain or shine, you can make these indoors or out.

Other Foil Pack Favorites to Try

Need some new ideas? Here are a few other tried-and-true foil pack dinners you might wanna throw into your rotation:

1. Sausage, Potatoes, and Green Beans

Smoked sausage, baby red potatoes, and green beans seasoned with garlic, onion powder, and a pat of butter. Rustic and satisfying.

2. Lemon Garlic Shrimp and Asparagus

Perfect for a lighter dinner. Toss shrimp and asparagus with lemon juice, garlic, and a touch of olive oil.

3. BBQ Chicken and Corn

Boneless chicken thighs or breasts with BBQ sauce, corn on the cob chunks, and diced red potatoes. Sweet, smoky, and filling.

4. Cheesy Taco Foil Packs

Ground beef or turkey with taco seasoning, black beans, corn, and a sprinkle of shredded cheese. Great served with a dollop of sour cream after cooking.

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So whether you’re out at the campsite, cooking for a crowd, or just want an easy dinner with no dishes to wash, foil pack meals are a surefire winner. Today it’s fajitas, tomorrow maybe BBQ chicken — but whatever you choose, you can’t go wrong with dinner in a pouch.

Now if you’ll excuse me, my fajita packs are just about ready and this porch ain’t gonna sit itself. Y’all go try one of these this week — and thank me later!

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

This Blog Post Is Brought to You by Procrastination

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Because cleaning out the fridge just didn’t stand a chance today.

Let me tell you something about procrastination—it has a way of turning the smallest tasks into Olympic-level avoidance strategies. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re either dodging your own to-do list or just curious how this mess of a post came to life. Either way, welcome. You’re among friends here.

The To-Do List I Ignored to Write This

Let’s be real for a second. I didn’t sit down with a cup of herbal tea and a perfectly timed content calendar to write this masterpiece. No ma’am. This blog post exists because I was supposed to:

  • Clean out the junk drawer (you know the one—with sauce packets, random screws, and 17 rubber bands).
  • Respond to three emails from last week.
  • Figure out why my printer makes that noise like it’s coughing up a raccoon.
  • Actually fold the laundry I’ve been cycling through the dryer like it’s in witness protection.

Instead, here I am. Writing. And weirdly? Thriving.

The Procrastination Spiral Is Real

Procrastination isn’t laziness. Let’s clear that up right now. It’s more like… productivity’s sneaky little cousin. The one who means well, but ends up reorganizing your spice cabinet instead of finishing the task you’ve been dreading.

And once you’re in the spiral, it’s hard to escape:

  • First, you delay one little thing.
  • Then you justify it with “I work better under pressure.”
  • Before you know it, you’re baking banana bread at 8 p.m. on a Tuesday because “it just felt right.”

We’ve all been there. Some of us have unpacked entire emotional journeys while avoiding a single phone call.

But Here’s the Thing: Procrastination Has Its Perks

Now don’t get me wrong—I’m not here to glorify avoidance. But sometimes? Procrastination is a creative spark. It pushes you into weird little corners of your brain you wouldn’t normally explore. Like writing a blog post that wasn’t on your radar… and suddenly, it’s one of your favorites.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

  • Procrastination forces honesty. When you’re avoiding everything else, you tend to say exactly what’s on your mind.
  • It invites creativity. Some of my best ideas show up when I’m avoiding folding towels.
  • It reminds us we’re human. Perfection is boring. A little chaos? That’s where the magic is.

So If You’re Procrastinating Right Now…

Bless it. Lean into it. But maybe, just maybe, let your procrastination push you toward something fun, creative, or unexpected—like this blog post did for me.

And hey—if all else fails, just tell yourself you’re “channeling your inner artist.” Sounds fancier than “ignoring real responsibilities.”

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

5 Ways I Reset My Life When Everything Feels Off

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Sometimes life just feels… off. Like your energy’s weird, your house is a mess, and your brain is yelling “nope.” When that happens, I don’t panic. I just hit my personal reset button. Here’s how I do it—quick, simple, and no fluff.

1. I Tidy One Room—Just One
Trying to clean the whole house? Overwhelming. But cleaning one room? Totally doable. I usually start with the bedroom. It sets the tone for everything else. And let me tell you—nothing hits like walking into a clean, calm space.

2. I Write It All Out
Grab a notebook or the back of a receipt, I don’t care. I just brain dump everything. What’s bothering me, what I need to do, what I’m avoiding. Somehow writing it all down makes it feel 100% more manageable.

3. I Drink Water and Go Outside
Simple? Yep. Effective? You bet. Half the time, I’m not in a funk—I’m just dehydrated and haven’t seen daylight in 3 days. A big glass of water and a short walk changes everything.

4. I Do a Phone Detox
Not forever. Just for a few hours. I put it on silent and do something offline. Read. Cook. Blast music and dance in the kitchen like nobody’s watching (they aren’t, thankfully). Anything to break that endless scroll spiral.

5. I Go to Bed Early, No Shame
When all else fails, I restart with sleep. I shut it all down—lights, TV, brain, everything. A full night’s rest fixes way more than we give it credit for.

I don’t always get it perfect, but this little list pulls me out of the weird zone every time. When life feels off, you don’t need a total overhaul. Just a few small steps to feel human again.

Which one are you trying first?

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

Stay Hydrated: Easy Tips for Drinking More Water

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We all know water is crucial for our health, but even the most obvious things bear a friendly reminder every now and then. Drinking enough water helps our bodies in countless ways, from keeping our skin glowing to helping our brain think clearly. It’s easy to forget to drink when life gets busy. But remember, staying hydrated can lift your mood and boost your energy. It helps you feel your best overall.

Surprising Benefits of Water

Water does more than just quench thirst. For example, drinking plenty of water can help digestion. It breaks down food and keeps things moving smoothly in your gut, preventing those uncomfortable tummy troubles. Another cool perk is joint health. Our joints have a cushioning called cartilage that needs water to stay healthy and flexible. When you’re well-hydrated, your joints won’t feel as stiff or achy.

Plus, did you know water can even give you more energy? Sometimes that afternoon slump is just mild dehydration. A glass of water can clear foggy thinking and give you a pep in your step. Staying hydrated can also improve your mood and concentration. You’ll feel ready to tackle anything.

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How Your Body Uses Water

Think of water as a superhero in your body. It’s in your blood, your cells, and all your vital organs. Every second, it works hard for you. Water helps your blood carry nutrients and oxygen to cells. It also flushes out waste so your body can operate smoothly. Plus, it even helps regulate your body temperature when you sweat on a hot day or during exercise. With enough water, your body’s “machinery” runs more smoothly. It’s like giving your system the fuel it needs.

Tips for Drinking More Water Every Day

Sipping more water doesn’t have to be hard or boring. Try carrying a fun water bottle with you as a reminder to drink throughout the day. You can even set mini goals, like finishing a bottle by lunch or refilling it a few times. Make it a habit by drinking a glass first thing in the morning and another before dinner. Setting little reminders on your phone can also help keep you on track. Also, sneak water into daily routines. Have a glass after brushing your teeth or take a sip between tasks or during TV commercials.

Another neat trick is to switch up your drinks. For example, drink water instead of soda or sugary juices sometimes. You could also replace one cup of coffee or tea with a glass of water each day. Over time, these small swaps can add up. It’s a big hydration win!

Make It Fun with Infused Water

If plain water feels dull, try adding flavors you love. I personally like to make a gallon of infused water a few times a week. My favorite combo is strawberry, cucumber, and mint – it tastes like a spa day in a glass! Another go-to is lemon and lime together for a tangy kick. Sometimes I toss in blueberries and a squeeze of lemon for a sweet-tart twist.

You can experiment with any fruits, herbs, or veggies. Just slice them up and add them to a pitcher of water. Let it chill in the fridge for a few hours or overnight to let the flavors mix in. Then, pour yourself a glass and enjoy the refreshing taste.

I find I drink so much more this way because it actually tastes delicious. Plus, you still get all the perks of plain water, just even tastier.

Keeping up your water intake is easier than you think. Small changes like these can add up quickly. Soon enough, you’ll notice more energy, better digestion, and even happier joints. Keep that water flowing – your body will thank you. Cheers to feeling refreshed and enjoying every sip!

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

The Truth About “Having It All Together”

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We’ve all seen those people who seem like they’ve got it all figured out. Their homes are spotless, their schedules are color-coded, and somehow, they still have time to work out, meal prep, and look like they stepped out of a magazine. It’s easy to look at them and feel like you’re falling behind in life. But let’s be honest—“having it all together” is usually just smoke and mirrors.

The truth? Most people are faking it. They’re showing you their best moments and hiding the chaos just off-screen. And chances are, they feel just as overwhelmed as you do.

What Does It Even Mean?

Here’s the problem—there’s no clear definition of what “having it all together” actually means. For some, it might be financial stability and a steady job. For others, it’s a peaceful home and quality time with family. Some people feel accomplished just getting out of bed and brushing their teeth, and guess what? That counts.

So when we compare ourselves to someone else’s version of “together,” we’re playing a game we can’t win. Everyone’s life looks different. Everyone’s goals are different. Trying to keep up with someone else’s pace is just asking for burnout.

Social Media Messes with Us

Let’s talk about the biggest offender—social media. Instagram and TikTok are full of people who appear to be living their best lives. Their homes are picture-perfect, their mornings start at 5 a.m., and they’re always productive and positive.

But here’s what you don’t see: the arguments before the family photos. The mental breakdowns between videos. The piles of laundry cropped out of every shot. Social media is a highlight reel, not real life. Comparing yourself to that is like comparing your raw footage to someone else’s edited film.

Nobody Feels 100% Together

Even the most organized, put-together people have messy days. They forget things. They cry in the shower. They stare at the ceiling wondering what they’re doing with their lives. No one is immune to stress, doubt, or feeling like a total failure sometimes.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost, know this—you are not the only one. It’s normal. It’s human. And despite what it may feel like, it’s not a sign that you’re doing life wrong.

You Don’t Need to Do It All

A big part of the pressure comes from the idea that you should be able to do it all—and do it well. Work full time, raise kids, keep the house clean, eat healthy, stay fit, maintain friendships, and smile through it all. Sounds exhausting, right? That’s because it is.

Life isn’t meant to be a perfectly balanced to-do list. It’s messy and unpredictable. Some days you’ll feel on top of things. Other days, you’ll forget what day it even is. That doesn’t make you lazy or broken. It makes you normal.

Focus on What Matters to You

Instead of chasing some made-up idea of “together,” focus on what feels good to you. What makes you feel like your life is working? Is it having a clean kitchen? Or is it spending time with your kids even if the dishes pile up?

Your version of success doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. You get to decide what’s important and what can wait. And yes, sometimes that means cereal for dinner and laundry that doesn’t get folded. That’s okay.

Celebrate the Small Wins

You don’t need a picture-perfect life to be proud of yourself. Got out of bed on time? Win. Took a shower? Win. Answered an email you’ve been avoiding? Major win.

We spend so much time beating ourselves up for what we didn’t do that we forget to acknowledge everything we did manage. Give yourself credit. You’re doing more than you think.

Final Thoughts

Having it all together is a myth. No one has every area of their life perfectly balanced at all times. Some people just hide the chaos better. Others are honest about it—and those are the people worth keeping close.

So stop chasing perfection. Show up as you are, flaws and all. Give yourself grace when things feel out of control. And remember, the goal isn’t to have it all together. The goal is to live a life that feels real, joyful, and true to you.

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

Hosting a Kentucky Derby Party

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The Kentucky Derby has always been one of my favorite sporting events. I remember watching it as a little girl with my Granddaddy. It wasn’t just about the race; everything fascinated me, the hats, the dresses, and of course, the horses!

Since then, I’ve kept up the tradition of watching every first Saturday in May. This year it just so happens to fall on my Daddy’s 74th birthday. For the past few years, I’ve hosted a laid-back Derby party at home. It’s simple — just how I like it. There’s no pressure, no complicated planning, just the things I love about the Derby: the race, the food, and the drinks.

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What I Serve at My Kentucky Derby Party

Let’s talk about the essentials: mint juleps, delicate finger sandwiches, and lemon bars. You just can’t have a Derby party without these. I’m all about keeping it easy, delicious and Southern! The mint juleps are a must — they bring that authentic Derby feel to the day. And I’ll admit, I’m a sucker for a good lemon bar. There’s something about the tartness mixed with the sweetness that hits just right.

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The Excitement of the Race

Sure, I’m not at Churchill Downs, but the thrill of the race is still there. Every year, I get excited watching the horses thunder down the track, even from my living room. No matter how many times I’ve seen it, there’s something magical about those final moments — the tension, the speed, the drama.

It is definitely on my bucket list. Me and the hubby have been talking about going for years. I know we’ll get there soon!

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Why I Love the Kentucky Derby

The Kentucky Derby isn’t just a race, it’s a whole vibe. It’s a chance to relax, enjoy some good food and drinks, and feel like you’re part of something special. I love the energy that comes with the day — the anticipation building as the race gets closer, the excitement when they’re off, and the moment it’s all over, with everyone celebrating or groaning, depending on their pick.

Who’s my pick? I may or may not have my money on a handsome roan colt named Sandman.

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

Are We Too Obsessed with “Main Character” Energy?

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We’ve all seen it: the girl walking slowly through the crosswalk with her iced matcha and sunglasses, vibing to a song only she can hear. The TikToks with people declaring “main character energy” as they romanticize everything from grocery shopping to crying in the rain. On the surface, it seems empowering—owning your moment, being bold, making your life feel like a movie. But at what point does celebrating yourself turn into something a little… much?

What Even Is “Main Character” Energy?

“Main character energy” started as a fun reminder to stop coasting and start living with intention. And hey, there’s nothing wrong with that. Who doesn’t want to feel like the star of their own story? The idea is to add meaning to everyday life, to notice small joys, and to build confidence. All good things! But somewhere along the way, it got twisted. What began as a lighthearted trend now sometimes feels like a full-time performance.

Social Media Turned It Into a Show

Social media, of course, plays a huge role in this shift. We’re constantly seeing curated content that makes ordinary lives look like cinematic masterpieces. That trip to Target isn’t just a quick errand anymore—it’s a moment. A photoshoot. A chance to show the world how aesthetically pleasing your reusable bags are. Even something as mundane as making your bed or sipping tea is suddenly part of this larger, polished narrative. It can be fun—but it can also feel fake.

Unrealistic Expectations Start to Build

What’s more, this obsession with constantly being the main character can set up some unrealistic expectations. If every day isn’t packed with magic, growth, or an inspirational moment, it can start to feel like you’re doing something wrong. Not every morning is a sunrise jog followed by journaling and a picture-perfect breakfast. Sometimes the alarm doesn’t go off, your coffee spills, and you forget to put on deodorant. That doesn’t make you less important. It makes you human.

Comparison Is the Thief of Joy (Again)

There’s also the issue of comparison. Watching others live out their “main character” fantasy can make you question your own life. If you’re not jet-setting to dreamy locations or having deep, poetic conversations in a candlelit apartment, are you even doing it right? Yes. You are. Not every story has to look the same. Some people are on an adventure arc. Others are in their healing era. And some of us are just trying to get through Tuesday without screaming into the void.

You Don’t Have to Perform Every Day

The truth is, you don’t need to be the main character all the time. Sometimes you’re the comic relief, the background extra, or the person who just holds the door open. That doesn’t make your story any less meaningful. The quiet, unfiltered moments are just as real and valuable as the highlight reel. You don’t need a camera angle or a voiceover to matter.

So, Are We Too Obsessed?

Maybe. But that doesn’t mean we should throw the whole concept out. Let’s just bring it back to what it was meant to be: a little nudge to pay attention to our own lives, to be present, and to stop waiting for permission to enjoy ourselves. Just don’t lose yourself trying to be a star in someone else’s movie. Write your own script—flaws, mess, boring Tuesdays and all.

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.

My Most Random Blog Post That Gets the Most Views

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(And Why It Still Shocks Me)

Out of all the blog posts I’ve written, one continues to show up in my stats week after week, month after month: “How to Spot the Signs of a Narcissist.” And let me tell you—I did not expect that one to take off the way it did.

It wasn’t planned. It wasn’t part of a content calendar. It just came pouring out of me one afternoon, and I hit publish without much thought. Looking back now, I realize that maybe that’s exactly why it resonated. It was real, raw, and straight from the heart.

Why I Don’t Talk About That Relationship Much

Here’s the truth: I don’t often speak on the relationship that inspired that post, because it left me with real, deep, lifelong trauma. I have PTSD. I spent 13 years in hell.

There was physical abuse almost daily—the kind that changes you, that leaves you looking over your shoulder for years even after you escape. I’ve had:

  • The tip of my ring finger almost completely severed and sewn back on.
  • My bicep slashed with a knife.
  • My skull cracked open.
  • Multiple fractured ribs and damage to my spine.

I fought back. Believe me, I fought back hard. But the emotional abuse? That’s the kind of pain that stays long after the bruises fade. I will never trust anyone and need constant reassurance. I am also cold in so many ways.

The Emotional and Psychological Toll

No one talks enough about mental abuse. The kind that messes with your head and makes you feel like you’re losing your mind. I was manipulated, gaslit, belittled, isolated, and constantly walking on eggshells.

There was also sexual abuse. And a level of betrayal I can’t even fully put into words—infidelity that included one of my underage family members. Yeah. Let that sink in.

That relationship not only destroyed parts of me and changed me in unimaginable ways, but it also damaged my children in ways we’re still trying to understand. He is a sick man. And I will speak on the dangers of narcissism any time I get the chance.

I Wasn’t Alone… and Neither Are You

What really blew me away was how many people reached out after reading that post. Women. Men. People in romantic relationships. People dealing with narcissistic parents or toxic friends. The flood of messages made one thing clear: this problem is way more common than we think.

And unfortunately, social media is only making it worse. We live in an era where everything is filtered and curated, and narcissists thrive in that world. They crave admiration, attention, and validation—and social media hands it to them on a silver platter.

Why I’ll Never Stay Silent

I’ll never stop talking about narcissism. Because someone out there is living what I lived. Someone is in survival mode right now, scared and confused, thinking they’re alone. You’re not.

If you’re reading this and wondering if what you’re experiencing is abuse—trust your gut. If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, constantly apologizing, and questioning your worth—trust your gut. If they love-bomb you, then devalue you, then act like you are the problem—trust your gut.

You can get out. It might take planning. It might take time. It will take courage. But you can be free.

We Heal by Speaking Up

That “random” blog post taught me something powerful: our stories matter. Even the painful ones. Maybe especially the painful ones. Because when we speak up, we give others the strength to do the same.

So if you’ve got a story buried inside you, one that’s aching to come out—write it. Share it. Talk about it. You never know who needs to hear it.

And if you’re still in the thick of it—I see you. I believe you. You are not alone.

📌 Need Help?

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please know there are people who care and want to help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline
📞 1-800-799-7233
📱 Or text “START” to 88788
🌐 thehotline.org

You deserve to feel safe. You deserve to be loved without fear. And you deserve to heal.

Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.