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Let’s get one thing straight: changing direction doesn’t mean you messed up. Not even close. Pivoting is growth. It’s awareness. It’s bold.
But still, it can feel like failure—especially if you’re someone who likes to follow through, finish strong, or stick with the plan. So, how do you shift gears without dragging around guilt or doubt?
Let’s talk about it.
First, Redefine What “Failure” Actually Means
Most of us were taught that quitting or changing our minds means we failed. But that’s just not true.
In reality, sticking with something that no longer serves you? That’s failure. You grow. Your needs shift. Your goals evolve. So your direction should, too.
If you’re making a pivot, it means you’ve learned something valuable. And that’s always a win.
Next, Remember Why You Started
Before you start beating yourself up, pause and reflect.
Ask yourself: Why did I begin this path in the first place? Maybe it made sense at the time. Maybe it helped you learn a new skill or gain confidence. That experience mattered—even if you’re done with it now.
Often, what felt like the right move back then helped get you to where you are today. That’s not failure. That’s part of the journey.
Then, Focus on What’s Ahead—Not What You’re Leaving
It’s easy to dwell on the time, money, or energy you’ve already invested. Totally normal.
But instead of thinking “I wasted so much,” try shifting that to “Now I know better.”
Where you’re headed next is the whole point of the pivot. If you keep looking in the rearview mirror, you’ll miss what’s ahead. Focus forward.
Be Honest With Yourself (And Others)
Sometimes we hang on just because we don’t want to explain ourselves. But let’s be real—that’s exhausting.
It’s okay to say, “This isn’t right for me anymore.” It’s okay to admit, “I thought I’d love it, but I don’t.”
Honesty doesn’t make you weak. It makes you wise. And when you own your pivot, other people respect it—even if they don’t understand it.
Remind Yourself That Pivoting Takes Courage
Letting go of the familiar is hard. Starting something new? Also hard. So the fact that you’re even considering a pivot is a big deal.
Courage isn’t about never doubting yourself. It’s about moving forward despite the doubts.
Give yourself credit. Not everyone’s brave enough to admit when something isn’t working. But you are.
Give Yourself Time to Adjust
Even when it’s the right move, pivoting can feel uncomfortable at first. That’s totally normal.
New directions take time. Don’t expect instant clarity or perfect results overnight. Give yourself space to figure it out.
Eventually, things start to click—and you’ll be glad you made the change.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need anyone’s permission to pivot. You don’t need to justify it. You don’t have to keep proving anything.
Pivoting doesn’t mean you failed. It means you’re listening to yourself. It means you’re choosing what feels right over what just looks right.
So pivot with pride. You’re not starting over. You’re just starting from experience.
Lisa Crow contributed to this article. She is a true crime junkie and lifestyle blogger based in Waco, Texas. Lisa is the Head of Content at Gigi’s Ramblings and Southern Bred True Crime Junkie. She spends her free time traveling when she can and making memories with her large family which consists of six children and fifteen grandchildren.